Typically, she discloses after she's gotten to know someone. Soon after Colleen made a profile on OKCupid she agreed to a date—just to test out the site. From the beginning, she knew it was important to allow people to identify as queer and transgender in their profiles.The other Mesh founders, who are straight men, agreed. As soon as I explained to them why it was important, they got it,” Sleidi said.Mesh, which is in pre-beta, allows users to identify as male, female, transman, transwoman, or non-binary—a person who doesn't identify as male or female.Categories for sexual orientation are straight, gay, bisexual, or queer.But being a foreigner can make the dating process even more difficult.Let four female and two male expats aged 18–32 years old who dated Spaniards to give you the ups, the downs, the dos and the don’ts.
Sleidi said that she is "very gay," and some of her transgender friends are uncomfortable using OKCupid.
With some 30 bars and clubs catering to the GLBT community, Phoenix is the gay nightlife hub of the Southwest and has one of the largest selections of gay bars in the nation.
This is a city where folks love to party, and the scene is generally friendly, unpretentious, and - in many cases - downright cruise-y.
Ryley Pogensky, the genderqueer person who created the petition, said that when he asked OKCupid about adding more gender identity options, a representative told him it would be difficult to change the site because it was built “in a pretty binary way.” La Mon has noticed that his male and female OKCupid profiles get different matches.
While he has dated some people through the site—it’s where he met the woman he’s seeing—he is frustrated with the limited ways transgender people are able to identify on the site, “because you don’t fit into these little boxes, or the people you’re interested in don’t fit in neat little boxes.” La Mon wasn't alone in his discontent.
As La Mon noted, it all comes down to “the age-old question of when you disclose” your transgender identity.