Mc Kay, later President of the Church, wrote in his journal: “Took a ride over on South hills. After all, choosing our marriage partner is one of the most vital, far-reaching decisions we make in our mortal lives. Through his Spirit, he will reveal the truth of a relationship to us as we allow sufficient time and exercise our faith.
Some people expect the Lord to provide a dramatic revelation about their eternal mate, but what usually happens is that as we drop our defenses and communicate with a potential spouse, we experience subtle, ongoing spiritual promptings about the relationship.
Taking his wife, Flora, by the hand, he assisted her out, and they walked arm in arm to a seat in the viewing stand.
During our courtship, Judy and I spent little money on dates because we received our greatest enjoyment from conversation and simple activities.A well-known maxim recommends longer courtships followed by shorter engagements. Brown concurs: “Infatuation may be romantic, glamorous, thrilling, and even urgent, but genuine love should not be in a hurry. Time should be taken for serious thought, and opportunity given for [each partner to gain] physical, mental, and spiritual maturity.Longer acquaintances will enable both to evaluate themselves and their proposed companions, to know each other’s likes and dislikes, habits and dispositions, aptitudes and aspirations” ( Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1960, pp. Building a strong premarital friendship requires spending sufficient time with each other and finding opportunities for interaction.This kind of growth best occurs during simple, wholesome activities. The base of the pyramid is friendship, and the ascending layers include building blocks such as understanding, respect, and restraint.After one of his first dates with his future wife, David O. At the very top is what he terms a “glittering little mystery called romance.” If one tries to stand the pyramid on its point, expecting romance to hold everything else up, the pyramid will fall (“The Gospel and Romantic Love,” We should be prayerful in all that we do, but courtship is a particularly important time to receive the Lord’s inspiration.How did the Bensons develop their strong relationship? President Benson’s biographer tells us that during this time, they “talked for hours, exploring their feelings about a future together. The more they talked, the more comfortable they felt with each other.” The prophet himself describes it this way: “‘There was so much to tell and we seemed to enjoy each other so very much. It was a perfect courtship during which I discovered in Flora a great character and a rare combination of virtues’” (Sheri L. On the other hand, Scott and Pamela met a few months after Scott returned from his mission. After a whirlwind courtship, they married in a beautiful temple ceremony.