As for the weekends, you can find me at mommy-and-me class and grocery shopping." Kayla says you wouldn't be able to pick her out as a single mom in a lineup at the playground.So just because a woman's parenting solo doesn't mean she's doing anything markedly different from a mom-and-dad duo."Where's his babydaddy?"It makes it seem like raising my son is a chore," says Mareesa Hernandez, a single mom to a four-year-old in Cliffside Park, NJ."I would never ask a married mom how she does it because I think motherhood is hard but also rewarding." Instead of asking a single mom how she manages, say something that shows you admire her. Or that my son is well-mannered and that must be a reflection of me.You wouldn't ask how a multi-income family affords their lifestyle, right?
Joy agrees; "My son has no relationship with his father, but we're like peas and carrots." "Where's your child?
Sarah suggests trying to play matchmaker—does your husband have any sweet single guy friends? "I almost fell over when my neighbor asked how I can afford a nice townhouse and SUV as a single mom," says working mom *Lorraine. Recent census numbers show that half of all custodial single mothers work full-time year-round.
"Or offer to come over one night (with some wine) and work on an online dating profile together," recommends Sarah."How do you afford being a single parent? That number jumps to 80% when you factor in part-time working single moms with custody.
""Babydaddy" is a word that makes single mom *Donna cringe.
"People assume because I'm young that I'm wrapped up in drama, but it's just the opposite.
My son's father and I aren't together, but his dad is active physically and financially." Even if the dad isn't involved, questions about a child's biological father fall strictly into the mind-your-own-business category, says Leah Klungness, Ph D, author of to share information about that man with you." Follow the mom's lead: If she brings up her child's father in conversation, then maybe she'll satisfy your curiosity.