And perhaps more importantly, you’ll be shunned and given skeezy asshole status by her protective posse of friends (as you should be), which means that minus her one rogue friend who’s actually dumb enough to go out with you, you’ll never date anyone else in her circle—or even six degrees of her circle.It might cause a little tension between her and her friend, but for the most part, we ladies stick together.) Your ex knows that you guys could easily sneak off and have your little rendezvous anyway, so she’d probably just as well know about it. NO, you cannot go out with one of your ex-girlfriend’s friends! No matter what she says or how little she promises it will bother her. Because right now—whether she’s consciously aware that she’s doing it or not—she’s testing you and the definition of your newly defined friendship. She may seem breezy, but the second you go out with her friend, you are a marked man.You get a few points for asking your ex if it’s okay. From the way you describe it, you can go out with her friend! Your friendship with your ex will never get off the ground—at least not until you stop dating her friends.Eventually, you’ll lose on both counts: your ex as a friend, and her friend as a potential girlfriend.Going out with this girl is insensitive strategically stupid.There are, of course, probably a few women in the world who really wouldn’t care, and maybe your ex is one of those women. Swim in a different dating pool if you really value a genuine friendship with this woman.The gay man’s perspective: Darren Maddox First of all, if she’s interested in you, let her ask you out!
A) Protecting yourself B) Ruining the friendship between the two girls C) Having them compare notes on you and how you kiss D) All of the above If you selected D, congratulations—that’s the correct answer! C) If you think that they won’t talk about you, you’re wrong. They may discuss your assets, but I’m guessing they will spend more time talking about your ass and other intimate info. I don’t care how buddy-buddy you are with her now, unless she’s super evolved, she’ll feel badly that she couldn’t make it work with you and that her friend may be able to.
It is either a test to see if you will do it or a fake go ahead that you will regret.
If you ever get into a disagreement or full on row with your new boyfriend or girlfriend you will get unlimited support off your friend.
She’s got a friend I’ve always found really attractive, and recently the friend mentioned to my ex-girlfriend that she’s interested in me too.
My ex says she’s okay with it if we go out, but a couple of my girl friends tell me that I shouldn’t even consider asking her out, no matter what my ex-girlfriend says, so I’m not sure what to do. —TM, Los Angeles, California The straight man’s perspective: Chris Kennedy I’m not a big believer in having a lot of dating rules, but I do hold true to the Golden Dating Rule—do unto significant others as you’d have done to you. Not literally—I’m not recommending fetishes—but see things from her perspective on this.
They will console you and tell you what your new fancy woman/man did wrong.