After all, it’s not just the fact that you have to make it work with the person you’re dating and the child that comes along with him or her, but you also have to deal with the ex who is the other parent to that child.The good news is that millions of men and women make it work, which is proof that it is possible.Perhaps you’ve got a demanding job/yoga schedule/pet and maybe your childfree adventures allow you to keep busy—you’re golden.Your new love can—and should—always make time for you when they’re able to, but don’t take it personally when things with the kiddos come up, because it’s not about you.We make a beautiful family, and we love each other. Because while dating someone with kids can be amazing in so many ways, don’t ever think it’ll be easy. You wanted to get away for the weekend but you forgot it’s over Mother’s Day because, newsflash, you’re not a mom?
I have two stepkids and I wouldn’t trade them for the world (a bottle of wine on some nights, ).
Boundaries are the key to success between your playmate and their ex.
If your lovey has created healthy boundaries and has good communication with their ex (or at least tried—not everyone’s ex is a picnic to get along with, which may be why they’re no longer together), I say full “steam ahead, cap’n!
Resources: If you start dating someone with kids and it starts getting serious, .
Get some books on step-parenting (this one’s my personal fave for ladies) and look online for some support forums—Facebook has lots.
Maybe you’re Dad’s goofy friend who gives them pony rides.