As a result, we automatically become more compassionate to the people we love.The key to a successful relationship is maintaining a sometimes delicate balance between self-compassion and compassion for loved ones. Stosny, you ended this post by saying "The key to a successful relationship is maintaining a sometimes delicate balance between self-compassion and compassion for loved ones." Would you mind expanding on this?Many men put down their partners for being a poor provider, parent or lover. I'm very sad that many people who may not be able to afford professional help and who are seeking psychological and relationship advice will have to read this dense, inconsiderate article.This just scrapes the surface of the issues I have with this article and website in general.Why is self-compassion and compassion for others a delicate balance?I had gotten the impression from "Love without hurt" that increased self-compassion tends to make compassion for others come more easily. We tend to focus too much on one thing at the expense of another. That's right; anyone can become emotionally abusive in an intimate relationship.The path to emotional abuse begins at the point where resentment starts to outweigh compassion.
Here's how to tell if you are an emotionally abusive man or woman.
Yet, your use of gender-pronouns requires that the reader do all of the extrapolation of principles and examples to other forms of relationships than heterosexually intimate/sexual ones.
Are you really so very ignorant of non-heterosexual relationships, and non-sexual ones, as well, that you were unable to choose different, more generalizable pronouns?
Resentment is a predominant emotional state in our age of entitlement.
Because we perceive ourselves to have more of a to make us feel good.
Because resentment makes you feel like a victim - it feels like someone else is controlling your thoughts, feelings, and behavior - it comes with a built-in retaliation impulse.