By mapping out the extent to which all six loves are present in your life, you might discover you've got a lot more love than you had ever imagined—even if you feel an absence of a physical lover.
Don't expect your partner to offer you all the varieties of love, all of the time (with the danger that you may toss aside a partner who fails to live up to your desires).
Or, as Aristotle put it, "All friendly feelings for others are an extension of a man's feelings for himself." The ancient Greeks found diverse kinds of love in relationships with a wide range of people—friends, family, spouses, strangers, and even themselves.
This contrasts with our typical focus on a single romantic relationship, where we hope to find all the different loves wrapped into a single person or soul mate.
But it also appears in other religious traditions, such as the idea of mettā or "universal loving kindness" in Theravāda Buddhism. have declined sharply over the past 40 years, with the steepest fall occurring in the past decade.
There is growing evidence that agape is in a dangerous decline in many countries. We urgently need to revive our capacity to care about strangers.
The message from the Greeks is to nurture the varieties of love and tap into its many sources.